Monthly Archives: August 2012

Dating Truth Serum


This is a comment that I wrote in response to an article about the show Mike and Molly.

Although this post is not related to Bikram Yoga, I thought it would be worth posting this. Many dating resources tend to soften the truth about the complexities of dating and appearance, but I have decided to cut to the chase with the cold, hard truth.

This is not meant to promote unhealthy exercise and eating habits. This is meant to spark some dialogue.
The Painful Truth About Dating Probability and Appearance

Mike and Molly is one of my favorite shows. Seeing the two characters together doesn’t make me uncomfortable because in my book, they are attractive people and their acting is good. However, I think that this article made me realize that on top of dating being difficult, it is difficult to date and be significantly overweight. I have been on both sides of the spectrum and now I am at an average weight and physically fit, but I definitely am nowhere near having a “perfect body”.

Speaking as a 32 year old single woman who is not in a relationship and is not seeing anybody at all and who has helped out in event planning for singles, it is an unfortunate truth, but appearance does matter when it comes to getting your foot in the door and having a chance at meeting someone. It is a very jagged pill to swallow, but physical attraction has always played an important role in the initiation of romantic exchanges. If a person doesn’t fit into the parameters of what another person thinks is attractive, inside or outside, there is really nothing you can do to convince someone to give you a chance. At least in my neck of the woods, if you want to increase the odds of meeting a wider number of people, you might have to step it up at the gym and make significant changes to your attire and appearance. For the record, I do not have people lined up to ask me out and I am happy with where I am at, but the truth is the truth, even though it hurts.

However, with all that being said, I am a person of faith and I believe that people of all different sizes, ages and personalities can be blessed with a relationship.


Can you believe it? Pain kills pain!


“Pain Kills Pain” – I finally believe it!

Today, I didn’t feel very well. Actually, I haven’t been feeling very well for the last week. However, I felt better after I concentrated on asanas that focused on compressing the lower back and abdominals. Now I feel like a new woman!

When I was told that I was like my own “physical therapist” or “chiropractor” by the teachers when I first started practicing, I thought (while my hands were sandwiched between the towel and my body during locust pose),”I am just learning more ways about how to inflict pain on myself.”

“Pain kills pain” is a quote I often hear from my Bikram teachers. For awhile, I thought it was just bunk-o. However, I noticed that the pain I have had in my lower back and abdomen have gone away after class. My moods have also been better as a result of detoxifying from class.

My next fitness endeavor:

In addition to Bikram and rock climbing, I am going to start Crossfit. I am probably just going to make it 1-2 a week, since Bikram is priority for me. However, I am not too thrilled about the paleo diet, which entails eating very little sugar (boo), lots of vegetables (semi-yay), good proteins (semi-yay) and good fats. Well, you gotta start somewhere.

I am pretty happy with the way I look. My body is not tight, but to me it is just right. However, I do not want to be miserable during Crossfit by NOT following the paleo diet lifestyle at least during the weekdays for at least the majority of my meals and snacks. For example, I would hate to have eaten a chocolate bar a day, four days in a row, only to find out that I am wheezing throughout the burpees BECAUSE of the fact that I refused to follow the paleo diet.

Don’t get me wrong, I like healthy food, but I don’t like the planning that it involves to invest in a clean diet. That is why I stopped bodybuilding after a whopping three months. The dieting just drove me nuts although I was able to exercise until the cows came home!

Well, on that note, wish me luck. I could also use some cyber and local friends who are also embarking on a clean eating/paleo kind of diet so I won’t be lonely.

The Double: Just what the doctor ordered


For the past week, I have struggled with the following standing series poses: Part 2 & 3 of Awkward Pose, Head to knee pose and Standing bow pulling pose. I have felt like one of the wobbly inflatable toys with the sand on the bottom. You know, the ones that you can punch and kick down but they keep coming back up.

Nevertheless, I just kept on getting back up and trying the posture again. 90% of the time, I have been able to end the posture by being in the posture.

The case of the wobblies is something that hasn’t happened since I first started practicing. But, I noticed that my balance improved after I did a double last night.

For those who aren’t familiar with all of the Bikram yoga vernacular, a “double” means taking two Bikram yoga classes in a day. So, if you take a “triple”, it means you take three classes in a day. I only know three people who have done three classes in a day. One person didn’t really like it. The other two people enjoyed it.

Anyways, I decided to stay for another class on a whim yesterday. I didn’t have any plans that evening and I felt like my body really needed another class.

I am glad I followed my instincts yesterday because I did pretty well in class this morning, even though I still wobbled around like a wind up toy during balancing series. However, the wobbling time was shorter.

Okay, I have to get away from the computer in a bit and feed The Meow Mixers.